Capstone Foster Care News

Dear Tara,

I’ve been thinking of all the things I wanted to thank you for and thought I’d write it down so you can read them when have a minute.

Tara, thank you for everything you have taught me during the past few years. I have learnt so much from you. As my first foster child, I didn’t know what to expect and if I’m honest I was a little daunted by the thought of the experience, you know, with me being on my own and all. Would I be able to give you everything you need?

Over the time I spent as your foster carer, you have taught me the true meaning of unconditional love. You had a bad start but that didn’t stop me from wanting to make your future better. We’ve had our ups and downs, and sometimes it’s been tough. I learnt to be patient, and so did you. When things were difficult or frustrating, we would always figure it out together. I’ll never forget the memories we made or the trust you showed to me during those first few weeks of meeting each other. It’s because of you I now know I can cope with more than I ever thought I could, for that I truly am grateful.

Thank you for teaching me to believe in my own abilities and for inspiring me to continue my foster caring journey and share all you’ve taught me with other children who need support too.


On Saturday 15th September the Capstone South East team were at Marlow Carnival in Higginson Park. It was a wonderful day talking to the locals about their interest in fostering and raising awareness about the need for foster carers in the Buckinghamshire area as well as enjoying the glorious Autumnal sunshine. The staff had lots of fun and also had an extra treat as they got the opportunity to meet the local Mayor and Chris Evans who were both attending the event and couldn’t resist a ‘Capstone’ selfie!

We want to thank everyone who stopped to chat and if you missed us then not to worry, you can contact us on 0800 012 4004 and we will answer all of your questions about fostering.

 

 

 


Before I became a foster carer, I worked as a Church Treasurer. I lived in a three-bedroom house with my wife and our two grown up children and when they moved out we were both left with each other and all this empty space around us.

The house became empty and quiet! It was an awful feeling! We used to have people around and they weren’t any more. It is like losing a part of our life and a big part of our daily job. The caring task was reduced for the need of 2 people only. And some daily routines in the house are just so difficult to amend because we have been doing it for years.

With a life time of experience gained as parents and as childcare worker, we thought we could give other children a chance to have a home and a family as well. That’s when we started to think about becoming foster carers and giving other children a chance to have a stable home.

The assessment is very thorough. They checked every aspect of our personal life just to make sure that the children would be in safe hands.

When we became foster carers, our daily routine changed, and we had to review our priorities and make the children our first priority.

I would say that the first rule in handling the stress, that can sometimes comes the way of a foster carer, is to try to keep quiet and calm when crisis strikes, secondly, be tolerant and thirdly, offer alternative solutions. Children seem to respond this.

Despite the challenges, being a foster carer is very interesting and a rewarding job. You look after children and have the chance to make a difference in their life. Seeing them developing and thriving brings a joyful feeling. And becoming a foster carer has meant that we are now a part of a new network of people, which has been a bonus.


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