Capstone Foster Care News

Fostering as a familyFostering for the McCabe’s is a journey they have taken on together as a family, here are their thoughts on fostering:

Kerry and Nathan:

We have now been fostering for three years and it’s been quite a journey! We’ve had lots of successes along the way and our favourite thing is seeing our foster child grow and flourish into the lovely strong girl that she is. At first it’s just little steps, like seeing them smile and laugh more often and as time goes by you start to see them glow and begin to gain confidence. It can be hard at times and that’s why having support is so important. Capstone has been brilliant at this, we have had lots of support from our supervising social worker and also the in-house psychologists. This really helps you to unpick situations and behaviours and gives you practical solutions to try out. Sometimes these are so simple but they truly work! We love being a family who fosters, we’ve learnt so much over the years and feel very much part of a wider family that Capstone provides.

Joe:

Fostering grants me so many opportunities as a birth child, mainly by me getting a chance to help change a foster child’s life. I have met so many people through fostering, not only the children that have come into our lives but also the professionals that support us. Capstone has really helped me develop as an individual, I have been on training and have had support from the in-house psychologists, this is so important to me, it helps me to be the best foster brother I can be.

Jack:

Fostering has allowed me to learn new skills which I may not have had chance to learn. I’ve met lots of children and have stayed in touch with them all. I feel very involved in fostering, I play a part in helping foster children to settle into our home, for me it’s about helping foster children feel loved and part of our family.

Foster Child:

I feel really happy and settled with my family, they’ve helped me to feel safe and part of. That’s the most important thing for me, that I feel part of. It’s the things like going on holiday together, having meals out and just doing things as a family that means a lot to me.

SSW  – Sarah Comments:

Fostering for the McCabe’s has always been a whole family commitment. Kerry & Nathan have successfully managed to combine parenting their birth children alongside a foster child so that they’ve been able to become part of a healthy functioning and fun-loving family. It’s not been without its difficulties and they’ve all needed lots of support at times, but with commitment & perseverance they’ve witnessed some fantastic development and progress in the young people they’ve had in their care.

 


In 2011 Rebecca came to live with Shahnaz & Muhammed when she was 12 years-old. Rebecca had been in care for several years since the death of her mother when she was eight years old, and previous arrangements to care for Rebecca had broken down.

Rebecca is now 18 and she is remaining with Shahnaz & Muhammed on a ‘staying put’ arrangement. She attends college full time and is currently in her 3rd year studying aviation. Rebecca plans to work at East Midlands airport in the future either in Security or in Immigration. Her long-term aspiration is to work at Heathrow.

Muhammed said: “We feel like she’s our daughter”

Shahnaz said: “I have children from my previous marriage and he has children from his previous marriage, we feel like she is ‘our’ daughter.”

Here’s the video from the BBC programme of Rebecca and her carers:

Muhammed and Shahnaz also foster two other children. Shahnaz continued:

“If you’re a foster carer you’ve got to have in you a nurturing nature, you’ve got to look after a child regardless of race and religion… You’ve got to love that child, you’ve got to protect them and make them safe and secure.” She is a child with her own identity, we are her parents, that does not mean we control her life.

The carers have been supported by their Supervising Social Worker, Varsha Mistry during their fostering journey. The family have recently appeared on the BBC’s Victoria Derbyshire programme to celebrate their successful fostering journey. The BBC team explored the matching process of children and carers of different faiths or cultures.

The programme highlighted how Rebecca, a white British young person placed with Pakistani muslim carers, has had her needs met for the last six years by her carers who have supported her through stressful periods like GCSE’s & college.

Rebecca said: “I wouldn’t be who I am today if it wasn’t for my foster family, I am not considered a foster child in my home I am treated like a part of the family”.

Well done to Rebecca, Shahnaz, Muhammed & the family for your continued support as foster carers from everyone at Capstone Foster Care. Over the previous 11 years you really have made a difference to all the children you’ve supported, and we are grateful for your hard work and dedication.

Muslim fostering

Rebecca and her parents

 


Fostering friendsAt Capstone, our foster carers are like pieces of a puzzle. They come in different shapes and sizes, and all play an important part to help the children who come into care.

Foster carer friends, Brian and Shauna are a shining example of this. Brian and his husband Julian first met Shauna and her husband Stephen back in 2015 when both couples started their fostering journey with Capstone at a training session.

Their friendship has flourished over the past couple of years as they have shared their fostering journey. Brian and Shauna are passionate about being Capstone Foster Carers.

The fostering friends are always available to help at events to talk to other people who are considering fostering. Their dedication to the role is inspiring and so is the way they help and guide each other to achieve positive outcomes for the children and young people they support.


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